“I try my best to confront situations because I know, at the end of the day, you can deal with it or it will deal with you.”
– Jada Pinkett Smith
I have developed a habit of deciding who I am going to be regardless of the outcomes. When I walk into a class room, when I go into work, or at the start or end of the day, I have decided what kind of person I am going to be before it is all said and done.
I have learned that committing to being who you are and making your dreams a reality means that one cannot allow themselves to be negatively effected by certain situations. I am not saying that we cannot learn from certain situations, but what I am saying is that we cannot allow those situations to take our focus off the mark. I cannot give people the power to steal my happiness from me.
Like everyone, I get angry. People say and do things that make me—no, they do not MAKE me do anything. But rather, I ALLOW their actions to upset me and that acts as a distraction. Instead of containing that emotion, I learn to recycle that emotion and use it as a catalyst in other avenues of life. Working out, drawing or even just writing as I am now. Learning how to recycle my emotions was extremely difficult, but I am learning and I am only getting better.
I decide who I am going to be weather the outcome is negative or positive. Whether the outcome is good or bad does not matter; all I need to know is that I am prepared to keep pushing on no matter what. But to be quite honest, I almost never even think about the unfavorable outcome(s); I am to too preoccupied with thinking about the positive outcome(s). This does not mean that I do not prepare for negative outcomes, it just means that I spend more time focusing on the positive during the course of the situation.
If the outcome is positive I just add it to the list of things that will keep me motivated. If the outcome is negative, I STILL add it to the list of things that will keep me motivated since I now have something I can advance on. It works both ways, especially when the decision is made before the outcome is decided. It is simple; either leverage the situation, or the situation will leverage you.
Developing this habit has helped me to combat anxiety tremendously; I seldom approach a situation worrying about “what if” because afterwords I have decided that I will NOT let the outcome control my future.
This is really just a formality of time management. I believe that success requires persistence as well as speed. The more time I spend being angry, licking my wounds, or worrying about the past, is time and energy I can spend directing it towards someone in need or something productive.
Lastly, this is not a habit that is meant to be built on your own. My friends and family have been a support system for me throughout my entire life. They have supported me through times of trail and I hope that they continue to do so. I encourage others to seek out healthy people to support them. However, I also know that friends and family can support me to the ends of the Earth; but when it is all said and done, I am responsible for my ongoing happiness and growth as a human being.
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